Motivating the young

By: Fr. Roy Cimagala

One very gratifying task I do is talking with young people, usually those in the school where I work, and being given the chance to help them in some way. It’s amazing that just by inviting them for a short chat, they would already feel very happy and grateful. And that’s because they actually have a lot to share, if not, unload.

I realize many of them haven’t had the chance of having some kind of serious talk where serious matters and issues are brought up. They may appear cheerful and carefree, but many of them actually bear some heavy load in their hearts. They actually need an outlet to vent their suppressed fears, doubts, etc.

They feel relieved that they, at least, are given some attention, are listened to, and are helped to sort out things bothering them. In fact, many of them would say they feel lighter after the chat.

It’s on these occasions when things are clarified since young people usually tend to exaggerate matters of little importance while belittling, if not ignoring, those with crucial consequences. The challenge is how to make them see what is essential in life and what is simply incidental and instrumental. Many times, they confuse and reverse the two. Also, they have to be taught the proper sense of priorities.

It’s a task that requires a lot of patience and consistency. Follow-ups are necessary since many of them get enthusiastic only at the initial chat but soon lose interest in the succeeding ones. Often they are held back by their misplaced sense of fear and shame.

It’s important that some degree of friendship and confidence to the point that they feel at ease in opening up, is established as early as possible and kept and developed along the way. They need to feel reassured always.

They need to be helped to know themselves better. They usually are quite aware of their strengths since they would simply enjoy them. It’s their weaknesses that they usually aren’t too familiar with. And if they know their weaknesses, they usually don’t know how to handle them. This is where they need help.

The dealings have to be such that they would always feel understood and respected as they are, warts and all. If suggestions and corrections have to be made, they have to be done gently and in the proper time. They should always be made to feel good and encouraged even if some scolding is made.

There are a great variety of young people and each one actually is a unique case. But the challenge is to identify the area where each one needs help. That’s because they may project many good qualities about themselves but often turn a blind eye to their weaknesses. They often don’t know where the dangers lie given the way they are.

Thus, it is important that each is considered in our prayer so that the objective light of Christ can really show how each one is. It cannot be denied that I, for example, have my own biases and prejudices that can cloud the proper assessment of persons and things. We have to be guarded against these.

The thing is it would always be good if we could help the young by motivating them to develop as fully as possible their potentials, suggesting and, if possible, opening new horizons for them, helping them make some kind of roadmap for this full development.

We can never say that we can reach the acme of their development and that there can never be some errors along the way. What is important is that young people can learn to fly on their own, so to speak, and know what to do in any situation they may find themselves in. What is important is that they mature!